I desperately wanted to like Ira and Abby. Pitched as a follow-up to the fluffy, yet entertaining Kissing Jessica Stein, Ira and Abby had all the signs of being a mindlessly fun film that would lighten my day. When I decided to see the paradoxically described "divorce comedy," I figured it would inspire a quick, enthusiastic review for this blog. At worst, I figured I would have to include some caveats on my approval (i.e. it's still a "chick flick", it's sometimes formulaic, et cetera). Yet weeks after seeing the movie, I am still at a loss for words. That fact alone should be some indication of my mixed feelings about the film. On the one hand, writer-actress Jennifer Westfeldt can have an inviting, if quirky, presence and her comedic dialogue is regularly sharp and witty. Still, I can't fight the feeling that Ira and Abby is too trite and ultimately too depressing to be anything other than mediocre.Ira and Abby explores one couple's forays into marriage, love, jealousy, and psychoanalysis. As you can guess, the film centers on the eponymous protagonists—Ira, the neurotic product of psychoanalytic parents; and Abby, a free spirit who has never set foot inside a shrink's office. Their story begins when Ira and Abby meet serendipitously in a New York gym. Hours later, they decide to get hitched. That's right, only hours later, they decide to get married.
Now, maybe I'm just a cynic. Maybe I'm not all that spontaneous (admittedly true). Regardless, the concept is a bit hard to swallow. Mostly, it seems unrealistic because Ira and Abby's initial interactions are so awkward and bizarre. Unlike other "love at first sight" films, like Before Sunrise, where the two immediately hit it off and ponder the depths of their souls within a short time frame, Ira and Abby decide to make a go of it after abrupt, off-kilter statements and interactions. Take this example. You tell me whether or not this is weird. During one of their first encounters, Abby asks Ira if she can see his stomach. After Ira begrudgingly lifts his shirt, Abby proceeds to nuzzle her head into his belly. Now, trust me when I say that Abby's actions in this scene don't play as "cute", they play as crazy (luckily her eccentricities become less bizarre and more endearing as the film progresses).
But, fine. We've gotten over how impetuously the characters have behaved. They got married quickly and under some weird circumstances. It may seem a bit sudden and unrealistic, but hey, some people are actually uninhibited enough to follow a similar trajectory (ahem, Danny Bonaduce). We'll suspend our disbelief. So we keep watching. The two end up falling in love and the audience gets to witness the bliss for awhile. Then, Ira finds out Abby has been married twice before and things takes a turn for the worse. Jealousy consumes their relationship. To tops things off, Ira's mother and Abby's father begin an extramarital affair of their own.
Suffice it to say, a significant portion of the film concerns relationships in disrepair. Though the conflicts are not on par with the virulence exhibited in other divorce/split up comedies like War of the Roses or The Break-Up, Ira and Abby does still grapple with the central problem that these movies face. How do you take the edge off of something as inherently unpleasant and disheartening as a break-up? The answer is, with tremendous difficulty. In Ira and Abby, for instance, the majority of the comedic punchlines involve cynical views on marriage. Even though the humor derives from the outlandish nature of the cynicism, the pervading pessimism can still leave a bad taste in your mouth.
Aside from these faults, the film is also riddled with platitudes and trite commentary. The generalized discussions about marriage are unoriginal and pessimistic. The commentary on today's overreliance on psychiatry feels tired and contrived. Fortunately, for all the lack of novelty in these discussions, at least the characters themselves are novel. Westfeldt has managed to create unique, dynamic characters that intrigue the viewer. Truth be told, I was rooting for Ira and Abby. Maybe not when the initial proposal scene happened, but I was definitely in their corner for the rest of the film. More than that, I can say I was actually entertained by the film, even if it did seem weirdly depressing to me (in a very subtle, aftertaste sort of way). At the end of the day, Ira and Abby isn't a "bad" movie. It isn't horrible. Was it good? I'm not sure. So for now I'm torn. Maybe in two years I'll have a definitive statement on the matter. Just don't quote me on that.







